I didn't say this..

"In fact, if success requires so much effort, then maybe failure is easier in the long run and offers different rewards. What kinds of rewards can failure offer us? Failure, perhaps most obviously, allows us to escape the punishing norms that discipline behavior and manage human development with the goal of delivering us from unruly childhoods to orderly and predictable adulthoods. Failure preserves some of the wondrous anarchy of childhood and disturbs the supposedly clean boundaries between adults and children, winners and losers, and while failure certainly comes accompanied by a whole host of negative affects such as disappointment, disillusionment and despair it also provides the opportunity to use these negative affects to poke holes in the toxic positivity of contemporary life."